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I’m expanding my presence in the world, and while Substack is slowly becoming a secondary platform for my work, you are always remembered. Writing to you—through these newsletters—will always be my first love, the starting point of what made me a parenting coach.
Many of you have felt the support that comes through the perspectives I share. And I know that those of you who have truly practiced and applied the tools I’ve offered have seen a real shift in your parenting.
If you haven’t felt that yet, I want to gently say—you might be missing out. These newsletters offer free guidance that contributes to the conscious evolution of our humanity. You’re not just reading parenting advice here—you’re engaging in something much deeper. And I’m honored to be doing it with you.
Over the next six posts—including this one—I’ll be giving you a real taste of what my Parenting by Design program is all about. If you’ve been following along, you’ve already received a few valuable posts and a clear preview of the depth and heart behind this work. I’m continuing this series because I want you to feel included, supported, and loved by me.
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Here we go…
Parenting by Design
A new way of seeing your child
In this chapter, I want to offer you an invitation—a gentle, grounded beginning. This is the first of a series of reflections that I call Parenting by Design. Over the next few posts, I will be walking with you through some foundational ideas that have the potential to change not only how you understand your child—but how you experience yourself as a parent.
The way we see our children shapes the way we treat them. It shapes how we interpret their behavior, how we respond, and how we speak about them—to others, and to ourselves. But most of us are not truly seeing our children as they are. We are seeing them through the lens of our own past—our own stories, our upbringing, our experiences, and the beliefs we’ve absorbed about what parenting “should” look like.
Beliefs are the driving force behind every choice I make.
-byMiha
I truly believe this and I am working on reprogramming my system. Watch me.
We were trained—without realizing it—to see children a certain way. Many of us were taught that a “good” child is obedient, quiet, helpful, respectful. That children are meant to listen and behave. That love is earned through performance. An gentle aching wave goes through me as I recognize myself, my little Miha, in this. My heart skips with excitement knowing I have the power to change my old beliefs..
These beliefs might not live on the surface, but they run deep and some of them take time to find them. The belief system informs the way we react. They shape the way we discipline. And often, without meaning to, they become the lens through which we see our children and we might label our child with outdated data.
The goal of my work is to promote more presence and awareness, creating space for connection, healing, and conscious growth—for both parent and child. I want us all to consciously re-parent ourselves before we parent children. Can we begin to look more gently at the lens we’ve been using? Can we loosen the grip of conditioned parenting and begin to see our children—and ourselves—with more clarity, softness, and truth?