#39 Ask Miha
keep it simple
My dear readers,
life is so fast at this time of the year. It is so busy with really so much to do, attend, and live. The end of the school year is always full of events. Isn’t it fun when we barely keep up with the kid’s schedules? Do you remember your schedule? When did children’s childhood become so busy that they have no time to be kids? Can we please slow the time down? Can we please go back to slow-motion-timeless childhood when everything was enjoyable and magical?
These are the times. Make the best of all. Take a picture a day so you will remember next week what happened two weeks ago. It’s funny but not funny. I remember my mom telling me that she barely remembers having us as her kids. She worked so many extra shifts and just one day off a week. I think this is the reason grandparents enjoy their grandchildren more because they have the time to play with them, observe them, and love them without the “parenting” responsibility. They are the grandparents and their only job is to play, enjoy, and love the child. Sometimes I say to my clients: “imagine you are the grandparent for your child.” I am pretty sure most of us have that special granny who made us feel like no parent did. Why? Becasue they had the time to be present with you. They did not feel the responsibility to put the pressure on you to be the perfect child, they loved you exactly how you were even when you got in trouble, with no judgments, and no etiquette, but free childhood times.
Be like your favorite grandparent for your child!
It’s time for Q&A
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Question from a parent:
“I need your help. My daughter has been potty trained for a while, she is 3 and a half. In the last 3 months or so we seem to have a regression period. She waits till she is already using the bathroom before she goes to the potty (#1 & 2). She is having accidents at night again as well! I have tried sticker boards for rewards. Even small little toys. I am at my wits’ end. And want to pull my hair out. Any help tips, advice, anything literally that will help?”
Thank you for daring! Every question is the best question. Ask with no shame.
The answer according to Miha
First of all congratulations! Any potty-trained kid is the reward for their parents’ patience! Nowadays when kids wear diapers until they are 4-5-6, your daughter is to be celebrated for her accomplishment. Please tell her she should be so proud of herself for doing it and remind her that accidents always happen, they are part of life.
Before I give my insight and some tips to help I have a question: what makes you think that she is waiting on purpose until she has to go and decides to go in her underwear? Do you know that is true?
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