Question:
“My 5-year-old is very controlling and sometimes aggressive talking back to me and my husband. He is super loud in his own way. We try to offer choices where we can use positive parenting but we struggle with how to respond to him at the moment. He is friendly, nice, and great at school with teachers and with others, but at home, he is off the leash.”
According to Miha
This situation is hard and we all know that moments like this are real. First of all, I would like to tell you that you are doing a great job already! Your child feels safe with you to be who he is. And sometimes he is angry. As long as he is nice and respectful at school and with others I am not concerned. Yes, is hard for you and your husband to face such uncomfortable situations, but as long as the child is comfortable with you is all good. We all have our moments and it would be crazy to ask a 5-year-old to be a saint at all times. I don’t think is possible for anybody, if you ask me. It’s the yin yang in creation. There can’t be one without the other.
Now that you know is normal, isn’t great? Don’t you feel better? Yes! don’t beat yourself up for something that happens here and there. Because I am sure he is not like that with you and your husband all the time. He is just comfortable being around you and he can express himself freely. When outside in the world we all try to have a mask on to fit into society. At home, we wear no make-up and aren’t we louder with people we love? You would not yell at me for stepping with mud on your white carpet, but you would yell at your husband for getting your carpet muddy. It’s normal. Unless you guys just had the most amazing sex, he could get away with anything. Right? If your child just got a new toy or you tell him he can have 10 min extra on his iPad he might not be so aggressive to you. He is happy. We can’t be happy all the time. Angry and sad are normal emotions, too. If angry is 90 of the time I would be concerned.
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